I’m having coffee with a Cancerian gentleman tomorrow. At least we’re hoping he’s a gentleman. It’s just a tinder thing, so you never know! I mean I’ve literally told him the bar is on the ground as far as my expectations for him as a person go, so it’s gonna be pretty easy to have a decent time.
Why do I have such low expectations, you ask? Well, it could be as simple as the fact that he’s a man on tinder. (And that would be somewhat true) BUT I refuse to align with such bitter energy anymore. I’ve actually got some truly beautiful men in my life who happen to be on tinder, and the jaded spinster vibe is just so not my bag baby, so we’re not sitting in the “all men are shit” camp moving forward!
No, I’ve actually detected a few specific causes for possible concern with this one. The first problem is that he’s cute, witty and thus far seemingly not intimated by me. Which means there’s a solid chance I’ll be mad attracted to him. And if I’m attracted to him that means there’s an even higher chance he’s just three red flags in a trench coat.
Also he hasn’t watched Harry Potter? Like… bro, you alright? I asked him why, thinking I’ll give him the benefit of the doubt as perhaps there’s a perfectly explainable obscure tragic backstory here preventing him from joining the rest of us in civilised society. “Zero interest”. Not sure I can trust a man with no interest in wizards.
And lastly. He doesn’t know his chart. He’s a Cancer. Thats it, that’s the extent of knowledge I’ve got on the dude. And he reckons I’m the first girl to ask him his rising sign?! Since we share a similar level of enthusiasm for dogs, baths and country music he decided we’re obviously soulmates. (Be more Cancer why dontcha) I said woah mate I haven’t seen your chart yet, let’s not get too excited. My dude asked me if he’s supposed to be making a spreadsheet 🙃 Now this on it’s own wouldn’t be too bad.. The issue is that when I pushed him on it, he said something along the lines of “how about you forget about what time I was born and just get to know me?”
Sir, what?
This of course circles back around to the fact that he’s not intimidated by me. Mans is telling me what’s up instead of doing whatever I tell him to? Yikes 🥵
Anyway, now I’m putting some thought to how much weight I give astrology in my world. Obviously not that much considering I recently met a TRIPLE GEMINI man and didn’t immediately block him. IYKYK. But I actually feel somewhat uncomfortable at the prospect of dating a man who’s whole chart I can’t agonise over… I wonder how much of this is rooted in my need for a sense of control? Self preservation?
This guy immediately sensed this and joked about me having to actually feel vulnerable. Which is, again, super hot and therefore concerning behaviour!
So I’m going for coffee with a man from the internet who appears to be cute, funny, intelligent and capable of holding his own. This should be interesting.